Men, whom many women have been taught would rather have sex than breathe oxygen, do have preferences when it comes to positions. And get this: Many even favor quality over quantity. Don’t believe us? These men came forward to reveal their favorite sex moves — and most proved tamer than you might imagine.
1. When you take it slow.
“I like to take it slow, with a lot of oral from both sides. Heavy amounts of kissing, heavy petting. Both excessively sucking on random parts of the body, slow tongue movements across random body parts, etc. Generally, the licking progresses into sucking, but a few early sucks never hurt anyone.” — Michael F., 25, San Diego, California
2. When you both lay on your sides.
“I really like it when we’re on our sides, facing each other, because it’s intimate but we can also be aggressive. We can look at each other while we’re f*cking, but this position also lets us both have control over the speed and intensity and my thrusting. My girlfriend tells me there’s something about sideways sex that targets her clit in the right way — it doesn’t hurt that she comes a lot quicker this way.” — James P., 35, Brooklyn, New York
3. When your ankles are over your shoulders.
“I don’t have the biggest penis in the world, but the position that makes me feel like I’m breaking my girlfriend (in a good way) is when she’s on her back and I throw her ankles over my shoulder and penetrate her. It makes penetration feel deeper for us both, especially if her butt is hanging a little bit off the bed.” — John J., 29, Phoenix, Arizona
4. When you have sex on the couch.
“I like it when she straddles my penis as I’m sitting in a chair or on the couch. I can see and touch everything, including her breasts and clit. I know a lot of guys like reverse cowgirl and it’s hot to see a girl’s ass and everything, but I always feel like it bends my penis to the point where it might break.” — Peter C., 31, Asheville, North Carolina
5. When you do doggy style.
“Doggy, all the way. I’m an ass man so, for me, there’s nothing better than watching her ass come straight at me. My current girlfriend isn’t into anal sex, which is fine, but doggy makes me feel like we’re having anal, but better: there’s no chance I’ll wind up with an strange ‘surprise’ on my penis when we’re finished.” — Brian S., 27, Richmond, Virginia
“Cowgirl is better than reverse cowgirl and doggy because parts of her body bounce, I can touch and feel every part of her body, and I get to see her face and her reactions. You can’t underestimate how hot that is.” — Paul B., 37, New York, New York
“Anything in front of a mirror — literally — anything in front of a mirror is 100,000 times better than without a mirror. Watching my girlfriend give me a blow job on her knees in front of a mirror is the hottest thing I’ve ever seen, but so is looking over and watching her ride me. Mirrors give us a chance to go where our eyes can’t and it’s the closest analog to both acting in and watching a dirty movie.” — Andrew A., 37, New York, New York
8. When you say yes to 69.
“69 can be amazing — but only if you’re around the same height. My wife seems to feel less self conscious about getting oral when I’m down on her at the same time, so she really lets loose and reciprocates by deep throating and going harder sucking at my penis. All in all, it’s a win.” — Tom F., 41
9. When you lay down on the ground.
“My girlfriend and I like it when she’s submissive so the move that always gets me is her laying flat on her belly and me on top of her from behind. It feels more intimate than doggy because I can wrap my hands around her breasts or rub her clit at the same time. I also like being able to cover her body with mine and holding her hands down. It always feels like my penis is as deep inside of her as possible in this position.” — Stefan, 31, Hawthorne, New Jersey
“It doesn’t matter what position we’re in because all positions have pros and cons (mostly pros!), but when my girlfriend starts to tell me about this fantasy she has where she comes home and finds her best friend giving me a blowjob and then joins in, I have to stop myself from having an orgasm in seconds. She describes every detail and looks me in the eye while she’s doing it — it just makes me want to thrust harder or do whatever I have to do to make her come. It took her a long time to add her friend into the fantasy (she used to leave out the person’s identity), but I told her men are visual and instead of being intimidated by that, she went with it. And that makes her and the sex even hotter.” — Justin R., 29, Raleigh, North Carolina
11. When you enjoy good old missionary.
“This is going to make me sound lame, but sometimes there’s nothing better than good, old-fashioned missionary sex. I get to be in complete control over the tempo and rhythm, I can slide my hands under my wife’s ass and it feels like I have her entire body in my hands. I think a lot of women underestimate how much some guys like to kiss them and rub up against their breasts and bodies when we’re having sex — and missionary is intimate enough to allow that.” —Thomas K., 33, Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania
12. When you sit on his face.
“My girlfriend is uninhibited in the bedroom and one of the things she does that makes me crazy is, instead of asking for oral sex or dropping hints, she’ll come up to me when I’m sitting on the couch, lift up her nightgown, and sit on my face and force me to start licking her. I mean, she isn’t really ‘forcing’ me because I love it, but you get the point.” — Jeff J., 37, Hudson Valley, NY
13. Seriously, when you have sex in front of a mirror.
“One night, my wife discovered that if she got on top and rode me on our den couch, we could both see her ass bouncing on me through the TV screen reflection behind her. It was crazy, crazy hot. It’s like watching your own porno. It was even better that she suggested it and wanted to turn around and watch.” — Greg P., 38, Los Angeles
14. When you talk during a blow job.
“Teeth and biting aside, there’s no such thing as a bad blow job. But an insanely great blow job involves a woman looking at me while she’s doing it and trying to talk to me while she’s doing it.” — Shane C., 29, Queens, New York
15. When you give his balls extra attention.
“I really like it when girls put in the extra effort to play with my balls — gently of course — while they’re going down on me or even when we’re having sex. It’s a very sensitive area and when done right it can really get me going.” — Max H., 28, New Jersey
16. When you keep both of your legs together.
“For me, the best position is when my girlfriend lays on her stomach on the bed with her legs together and I enter her from behind. She feels really, really tight and I think it hits a good spot for her. It’s also nice that I can reach around and touch her clit and breasts.” — Denis L., 31, Toronto, Canada
17. When you remember his specific turn-ons.
“I mentioned to a girl that I had been hooking up with that when she wore strappy heels it drove me crazy. She immediately picked up on the fact that it was something I was into. The next time we were in bed, missionary position, nothing crazy, she wrapped her legs around me in such a way that the arches of her soles were pressed against my hips/butt, almost pulling me toward her, and when she was close to orgasm I could feel her toes clenching … my body temp just rose 5 degrees thinking about it.” — Kenneth M., 36, Hoboken, New Jersey
18. When you tell him what you like.
“Most guys have ‘things’ that they are into, but almost all of us have an overwhelming desire to please — if we know you’re into it, we’re into it. I was talking to a woman once and casually/sarcastically mentioned that people looking at their phone during conversation made me want to choke them; her response was to immediately take out her phone, and whisper, ‘Promises, promises.'” — Greg O., 34, Chicago, Illinois
19. When you’re just a bit tied up.
“When her hands are cuffed or tied in front, I like to push her hands over her head with one arm while I grab the small of her back and thrust. It maximizes our skin contact, gives me great leverage, and we can both moan into each other’s ears.” — Dan M., 32, Kansas City, Missouri
20. When you clean up your act — together.
“Occasional morning sex in the shower is such a great start to the day — sometimes my wife will surprise me with a reach-around, or we’ll make time for the full deal. It definitely puts me in a better mood on days when I know I’ll have long, annoying meetings, and it certainly makes Mondays less awful!” — Benjamin B., 34, St. Louis, Missouri
21. When you bite his ear mid-orgasm.
“I used to date a girl who would pull my head close to her and whisper in my ear when she was about to have an orgasm, then she’d bite or suck on my earlobe while it was happening. It was really, really hot.” — Daniel E., 39, Austin, TX